It is with a heavy heart I write this next blog post dedicated to one of my wife’s best friends, Ariana Garcia. On Christmas morning, my wife received the phone call that Ariana, who had been in the hospital since Christmas Eve from a car accident, didn’t make it. A flood of emotions overcame my wife as well as tears and questions from other friends and family.
Christmas Is Supposed To Be Happy, Right?
If you know anything about Christmas, you know that Christmas is supposed to be happy, right? I mean, look at these words…
In the air there’s a feeling of Christmas, children laughing, people passing, meeting smile after smile. – Silver Bells
Everybody knows a turkey and some mistletoe, help to make the season bright.
Tiny tots with their eyes all aglow, will find it hard to sleep tonight. – The Christmas Song
Hark! how the bells, sweet silver bells, all seem to say, “Throw cares away.” Christmas is here, bringing good cheer, to young and old, meek and the bold. – Carol of the Bells
The lyrics are wonderfully written. They sound great. Some of them are my favorite Christmas songs. But here is the reality.
Last night, in our apartment, there was no smile after smile.
We weren’t able to “throw cares away” just because we heard the bells.
And turkey and mistletoe definitely didn’t make the season bright.
The only true statement was the fact that 22 year old Ariana Garcia was hurt in a car accident on Christmas Eve and we were going to “…find it hard to sleep tonight.”
Why Would God Let This Happen?
On Christmas Eve, while children fell asleep dreaming about what Santa will bring them, my wife went to bed afraid to look at her phone for fear of a text with bad news about Ariana. On Christmas morning, Susie’s phone rang. Afraid to answer, it was our friend Demi calling Susie to let her know Ariana had passed away…
… and the typical Christmas morning changed completely.
All my wife could do was cry and ask, “Why would God let this happen?”
As a husband, and as a pastor, it hurt me knowing all I could say in that moment was,
“I don’t know…”
And that’s the truth. I don’t know… but God knows. And I have to trust that God is in control.
Even when my wife’s best friend passes away, God is in control. Even when my wife is crying herself to sleep not understanding why, God is in control. Even when Ariana’s friends and family don’t understand, God is in control.
Even when I don’t understand why, I have to believe God is still in control.
As the reality began to sink in, my wife started thinking about all the things she wish she could say to Ariana now. If you’ve ever lost a loved one, you know the feeling. When you post something about Ariana, if you use #DearAriana, we will all be able to see and read our messages to Ariana together.
If I just had one more chance to see her, if she were here right now, this is what I would say to her trying not to cry…
Thank you so much for your friendship. I remember when my wife worked at Subway and how much she would talk about her two new friends Demi and Ariana. Susie loves you so much and loves hanging out with you. You were one of her best friends.
Thanks for coming by our apartment to hold our baby girl and see the baby room. Thanks for even texting my wife while she was pregnant to see how she was doing.
One of the funniest moments I remember is when you were at our apartment and I offered a dark chocolate no-bake cookie to you and I’m pretty sure you didn’t like it because you didn’t finish it and gave it back to me as you left. Too funny. By the way, I still have the book you let me borrow. We’ll be sure to give it to Mike along with our Christmas card for you two.
Thank you for being there for my wife. Thank you for coming to our wedding. I see even more now how much you meant to Susie. I won’t forget that.
Take Heart, I Have Overcome The World
As I read my Bible looking for hope in the face of death, I am reminded of Jesus’ words. You know, Jesus, the baby boy celebrated on Christmas. Jesus spoke these words to us…
… to me…
… to you.
“I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”
My friends, take heart. A baby boy has come. A Savior has been born. He has overcome the world. In the darkest of times, Jesus is right there next to us, wrapping His arms of love around us. He holds us as we cry and mourn and yell asking, “Why?” Just like a good Father, He will never leave us. But take heart….
He has overcome the world.
#DearAriana, rest in peace sweet girl. We love you.
Each day given to us is a gift from God. He has a plan for my life and for your life. One of the best ways to live life is with Jesus Christ at your side. The best way to make the most of every day is to begin by realizing it is another day God has given you! Giving your life to Jesus is the best decision someone could ever make. If you shoot me an email or a Facebook message, I’d love to tell you more about how to begin living life to the fullest.